Difficult Relationships

The following is the best channeling we've had on handling difficult relationships. While the following channeling is for parents of an adult son who they can't seem to find any common ground with, it certainly can apply to any kind of relationship that we have. We can all make our lives more peaceful by implementing the following.

Guides about John Jr.

Without doubt you know and feel that what you want, in all ways in life, is to bring compassion towards your fellow humans, towards those who live here on this earth as you do; finding your way, looking for your multi-dimensional status knowing that there is much more to who you are than meets the eye. Just as you and Sally are discussing, not all beings in human form find that as something attainable, something they can accomplish and bring forward. So you ask yourself: then what is my role? Do I fall to their level and accept their kind of attitude, energy and behavior? Well of course not. You recognize what it is that you hold in terms of your truth and authenticity and then you deal with them accordingly but not with the idea that they must, somehow, jump to your command and act based on your wishes. Of course John Jr. is going to proceed through life with the inclinations, the proclivities, and the issues that he is dealing with. Yes, one of them is feeling in some way that he must get the better of his father and be able to receive what he feels is justified and deserved in this life. Yet that does not require nor mean that you or John dance to the dance that he is putting out there.

Knowing that then, you must continually take the path that is looking to the horizon that sees John Jr. as someone more than just the sum of his parts as he is behaving on this earth. You have the realization of knowing there is something else within him that he has, that he carries, that he has not yet discovered on the path here on this earth. You acknowledge and have faith in that. You focus there and you help John focus there. Yes, you deal with what you must in terms of whatever John Jr. brings in the material, physical world forward but you do so with a constant recognition and overview that he is a soul who struggles with the kind of energy and the kind of purpose that you and John live by. He is as unable to move in that direction as you are to live like he does. So you must remember that. You must hold yourselves accountable to who you are and what you know about life.

Just as you are discussing here this moment, you recognize and can feel that John Jr. is lost. In so many different ways he knows not how to proceed. He feels the world beckoning and the world setting up expectations that he wants to answer to, that he knows is in rhythm with his own energy and then he steps into it feeling inept and unable to. This frustrates him. It puts him into a state of resignation. He resigns himself that he doesn’t have the stuff to do what it is he wants to do, what his father has done. So he finds all other means, all other ways, all other methods to get what it is he so desperately wants.

Of course you are going to see desperation in his behavior and his actions. Of course you are going to recognize that it comes from his feeling frustrated, his feeling that he can or should be in sync with what the outer world is telling him and yet he continually bumps against it and finds that he’s not. So what does one do in that case? You start stretching desperately out, projecting on to others in your life what it is that is wrong with them or where it is their weak spots are so that you can pounce there and see if perhaps that is the avenue, that’s the way, to get what you want. That’s what he is doing now, nothing more. He is pushing himself to the limit, pouncing on John, his father, looking for a way to see where that weakness might open a porthole for him.

Recognize him for who he is. Know what it is he is doing. Accept that that is the way, the only way he knows how to turn but that you know a different way. You hold him to another energy. You will continually recognize that there is a soulful being here, still walking the earth learning and trying so hard to be what he wants to be here as John Jr. Just accept that this is his part, this is his path, and then deal with what you can that is healthier and above board and what you can’t, by no means, deal with it all.

You have recognized that it is best with John Jr., and John has as well, to keep the distance, to not feel the closeness or to invite some sort of camaraderie. You know that John Jr. is not capable at this point of being in the energy with you and knowing that that energy is something sustaining and helpful. Instead it brings a rub. It brings a sense of being off and jagged. So the honorable, the most astute move, is to keep yourself away from him and to send as much as you can the acknowledgment of who he is as a soulful being.

Let him know, and let John know, that you are there as a partner not to see the flaws and the failings of who John is as a person. That is well documented and you don’t need to focus or speak of that. Just know that there is something else inside of him that is so clamoring to come out and he cannot find a way for it to. Invite him in on that level of energy, as that soulful being, and put your focus there and helping John do the same. Then all that is happening in the physical will go to exactly where it is meant to. It is not here to cause upset. It is a moment of truth where John must face who his son is and accept him and love him all the same.